Lessons from the Three of Cups:
The Three of Cups usually depicts three characters, usually women and usually bonding over drinks. The ambiance is always jovial and suggestive of a party taking place. The Three of Cups teaches us the value of community and friendships. It reminds us that we cannot be at our best when we are alone or in isolation. We rely on others, at the very least, for emotional support and validation. As naturally social creatures, being around others who approve of and understand us is essential to creating a sense of belonging, and therefore a state of happiness and self-worth. Friendships are also important for expanding our viewpoints and formulating an identity outside of the family unit and professional environment. These relationships allow us to explore new interests and ideas, which provides opportunities to grow as individuals emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.
“As we learn about each other, we learn about ourselves.” — Doctor Who, William Hartnell, 1st Doctor 1964
Lessons from Star Trek:
“I HAVE BEEN, AND ALWAYS SHALL BE, YOUR FRIEND.” —Spock, Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan
Spock’s dying words in the Wrath of Khan have become a popular quote when expressing geek camaraderie. However, it’s important to note that the friendship between Spock, Kirk and McCoy was not automatic. These three men, each of great passion and intellect were constantly on each other’s nerve, Spock for being too literal and Kirk too reckless; yet over time they found it more uncomfortable to be separated than be together. The cementing key to this Trekky trinity was their lifetime of shared experiences and companionship during tragedy, as well as their common values that attracted them to Starfleet. When confronted with crises of our own, our current friendships tend to grow stronger or fall apart. Longest lasting and deepest caring friendships are often founded on mutual trust that has been tried and tested during periods of strife or hardship.
“There are some things you can’t share without ending up liking each other, and knocking out a twelve-foot mountain troll is one of them.” – Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone
Aristotle theorized that the strongest bonds between friends were founded on sharing similar social stature, worldview and culture. He failed to recognize, however, that although it can be comforting to seek out the company of people who are like-minded and of similar backgrounds, those relationships have a tendency to trap us in echo-chambers and feedback loops stagnating our personal growth and development. Star Trek was a champion of diversity and exploration. Spock, a half-human/half-Vulcan strives to live up to his native culture’s ideal logical nature, but he needed human friends to better understand his human self. Spock’s Vulcan mind rationalized his death by claiming the needs of the many out way the needs of the few …or one, but his final emotional declaration was the combined result of his exposure to and the formulated trust of his human companions aboard the Enterprise.